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Re: Reconciling parents and death

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2023 6:07 pm
by J o o k
Mask Off wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 6:05 pm
J o o k wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 4:28 pm At some point do folks cope with the fact their parents are getting old and will soon die?

OR

Is it still a shock and total horror that your parents face illness and death when they get into their 70s, 80s, and 90s?
i think about it all the time. the day my momma goes is the day i turn full menace bro

that's my homie. we've been through so much in this fucked up world together.

id rather just put the fucking pillow over her face than ever watch her suffer through illness
Word, sounds like you guys are close

Re: Reconciling parents and death

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2023 6:23 pm
by Diasick
J o o k wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 6:05 pm
Diasick wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 5:56 pm One of my parents died too young dad was old but not old enough to die he was 68 but dudes are living longer than that that’s pretty good for smoking 5 packs a day
Got damn, 5 packs a day is about 100 cigs right? That’s about a cig every ten minutes you’re awake lol.
Sure I’m exaggerating I added it up if he saved that money instead of buying ciggs he could of had a nice Harley or some shit it was at least 3 packs he always had to have one in his hand but quit 10 years before he died gained a lot of weight and that made his lungs and copd worse

Re: Reconciling parents and death

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2023 6:58 pm
by Ckopdoggy
I live a little over an 8 hour drive away from dad and that is by far the closest I’ve ever lived to him. My dad had one of the craziest work commutes. He would drive 2 hours to and 2 hours from work five days a week for maybe 10 years or longer. He would call me on his drives home sometimes when he’d be stuck in traffic and we’d talk for a good hour or two or even his entire drive home. Never really thought about losing him but a couple years ago doctors found a growth in his brain that needed surgery. When he called to tell me about it I swear we were on the phone talking for at least two hours and that was probably the most scared I’ve been when it came to the inevitability of losing him because it was in a part of his brain that was pretty difficult to get to. We had another long ass conversation before he went in for his procedure. He made it out fine and he’s still kicking in fact I just seen him a few weeks ago when I drove down to Connecticut for my nephews birthday party and we talk all the time. He still has that commute but since his procedure he goes into the office at most twice a week and does the rest of his work at home, I mean unless they really need him for something important where he needs to be in office all week which happens but not too often. I just talked to him a couple days ago and as much as I don’t like to think about it that feeling of inevitability is there constantly now.

My mom could be dead I’m not sure, haven’t heard from her in a while.


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Re: Reconciling parents and death

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2023 7:45 pm
by Vulgar
TheWarchief wrote:pops going through some fairly intense chemo right now tbh

I hate it, but the only thing that's on my mind is being there for him and mom
Damn man try and keep ya head up. Prayers for Poppa Chief

Re: Reconciling parents and death

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2023 9:23 pm
by J o o k
Ckopdoggy wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 6:58 pm I live a little over an 8 hour drive away from dad and that is by far the closest I’ve ever lived to him. My dad had one of the craziest work commutes. He would drive 2 hours to and 2 hours from work five days a week for maybe 10 years or longer. He would call me on his drives home sometimes when he’d be stuck in traffic and we’d talk for a good hour or two or even his entire drive home. Never really thought about losing him but a couple years ago doctors found a growth in his brain that needed surgery. When he called to tell me about it I swear we were on the phone talking for at least two hours and that was probably the most scared I’ve been when it came to the inevitability of losing him because it was in a part of his brain that was pretty difficult to get to. We had another long ass conversation before he went in for his procedure. He made it out fine and he’s still kicking in fact I just seen him a few weeks ago when I drove down to Connecticut for my nephews birthday party and we talk all the time. He still has that commute but since his procedure he goes into the office at most twice a week and does the rest of his work at home, I mean unless they really need him for something important where he needs to be in office all week which happens but not too often. I just talked to him a couple days ago and as much as I don’t like to think about it that feeling of inevitability is there constantly now.

My mom could be dead I’m not sure, haven’t heard from her in a while.


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Glad he made it out alright man got damn. Ya pops and moms split or you just dont chat much with her?

Re: Reconciling parents and death

Posted: Sun Sep 17, 2023 9:31 pm
by Ckopdoggy
J o o k wrote:
Ckopdoggy wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 6:58 pm I live a little over an 8 hour drive away from dad and that is by far the closest I’ve ever lived to him. My dad had one of the craziest work commutes. He would drive 2 hours to and 2 hours from work five days a week for maybe 10 years or longer. He would call me on his drives home sometimes when he’d be stuck in traffic and we’d talk for a good hour or two or even his entire drive home. Never really thought about losing him but a couple years ago doctors found a growth in his brain that needed surgery. When he called to tell me about it I swear we were on the phone talking for at least two hours and that was probably the most scared I’ve been when it came to the inevitability of losing him because it was in a part of his brain that was pretty difficult to get to. We had another long ass conversation before he went in for his procedure. He made it out fine and he’s still kicking in fact I just seen him a few weeks ago when I drove down to Connecticut for my nephews birthday party and we talk all the time. He still has that commute but since his procedure he goes into the office at most twice a week and does the rest of his work at home, I mean unless they really need him for something important where he needs to be in office all week which happens but not too often. I just talked to him a couple days ago and as much as I don’t like to think about it that feeling of inevitability is there constantly now.

My mom could be dead I’m not sure, haven’t heard from her in a while.


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Glad he made it out alright man got damn. Ya pops and moms split or you just dont chat much with her?
They split when I was 11 months and I was sent to go live with my grandmother on my Dads side. I saw and talked to dad all the time but mom very rarely. Later in life I kept in touch with her more often but she moved around a lot and had a bunch of issues. Haven’t heard from her in a few years and none of her numbers I have works anymore so I have no idea what’s up.


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Re: Reconciling parents and death

Posted: Mon Sep 18, 2023 1:05 am
by J o o k
Ckopdoggy wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 9:31 pm
J o o k wrote:
Ckopdoggy wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 6:58 pm I live a little over an 8 hour drive away from dad and that is by far the closest I’ve ever lived to him. My dad had one of the craziest work commutes. He would drive 2 hours to and 2 hours from work five days a week for maybe 10 years or longer. He would call me on his drives home sometimes when he’d be stuck in traffic and we’d talk for a good hour or two or even his entire drive home. Never really thought about losing him but a couple years ago doctors found a growth in his brain that needed surgery. When he called to tell me about it I swear we were on the phone talking for at least two hours and that was probably the most scared I’ve been when it came to the inevitability of losing him because it was in a part of his brain that was pretty difficult to get to. We had another long ass conversation before he went in for his procedure. He made it out fine and he’s still kicking in fact I just seen him a few weeks ago when I drove down to Connecticut for my nephews birthday party and we talk all the time. He still has that commute but since his procedure he goes into the office at most twice a week and does the rest of his work at home, I mean unless they really need him for something important where he needs to be in office all week which happens but not too often. I just talked to him a couple days ago and as much as I don’t like to think about it that feeling of inevitability is there constantly now.

My mom could be dead I’m not sure, haven’t heard from her in a while.


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Glad he made it out alright man got damn. Ya pops and moms split or you just dont chat much with her?
They split when I was 11 months and I was sent to go live with my grandmother on my Dads side. I saw and talked to dad all the time but mom very rarely. Later in life I kept in touch with her more often but she moved around a lot and had a bunch of issues. Haven’t heard from her in a few years and none of her numbers I have works anymore so I have no idea what’s up.


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Word, that makes sense bro, thanks for sharing

Re: Reconciling parents and death

Posted: Mon Sep 18, 2023 1:13 am
by Mask Off
TheWarchief wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 5:04 pm pops going through some fairly intense chemo right now tbh

I hate it, but the only thing that's on my mind is being there for him and mom
Prayers bro

Re: Reconciling parents and death

Posted: Mon Sep 18, 2023 3:00 am
by Sir Bustalot
TheWarchief wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 5:04 pm pops going through some fairly intense chemo right now tbh

I hate it, but the only thing that's on my mind is being there for him and mom
Fuckin cancer...
Hope you and your fam the best holmes

Re: Reconciling parents and death

Posted: Mon Sep 18, 2023 3:09 am
by nohbody
i had to watch how my parents dealt with their parents death. I was actually in the room to see 3 of my grandparents pass. Whats strange is, they were pretty much numb to it all... more focused on things like funeral proceedings and what to do with all the things they left behind.

think i will be a bit of the same... numb to it. get through the funeral. and knowing me.... i will grieve in private as it hits me. When my first grandparent passed away, i dont think i ever really shed a tear until the first time i went on my own to visit his grave stone. at this point,