I don’t think talking about it at a younger age or in a different way will change that
When my estranged dad died in an accident it was awful cuz I knew we’d never have the conversation I always imagined that would clear the air
When my aunt with Down’s syndrome died a slow death on a ventilator it was awful cuz I could see the terrible pleading fear in her eyes but there was no way to comfort her
My mom might live another 15 years but watching her memories and mind be eaten away is the worst of all
Then I think about my own death and how one day I’ll be separated from my two sons by all of time and space. Likely never getting to see or hold them again.