Female friendships are difficult to navigate

cody
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Female friendships are difficult to navigate

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It’s crazy man. you could be friends with someone for years.. support them on all their endeavours, speak about them greatly in rooms they are not even in so they can grow and reap the benefits, include them in all your major moments in life, be open and vulnerable with them .. but they literally only stay within your vicinity because they want your life ..or what it looks like on the outside. On top of literally copying everything I do, this person had the audacity to claim some wild shit about my family.. and they said it with conviction.. I still kept my composure with them

Sometimes it’s difficult cutting people off, and I don’t want to make it as obvious.. but I’m actually starting to hate this bitch for her weird ass ways

I hate how she’s infiltrated my circle

We are having a pretty big Halloween party this year and I think I’m planning on doing the big “fuck you” this year and not inviting her. That would be a big step for me.

I’ve talked about this with my husband, and he could totally see it as well.

Why are adult friendships so hard to navigate? I’m a simple person man

What role does friendship play in your life ???
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Friendships are either a great thing or a nuisance. That’s why circles need to remain small.

You have to find friendships that have no strings.


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People only act, how you allow them to, so if there’s an issue it’s because you allowed it to fester.

I don’t know the situation, but if she’s infiltrated your circle, let’s look past the party.

You don’t invite her, the party is here. Any ramifications? Are other friends not coming because she has now influenced them and you are the bad person? Are other people turning against you?

How about post-party? What did you accomplish, a big fuck you. Now where do you guys stand? Is she eradicated from the family? Or does it just exacerbate the issue?

Who are the key players that have relationships with you both? Are they ready to ride for you? If not, are you willing to part with them?

If you want something more subtle, it sounds like you’re moving out and removing yourself from certain situations as needed. A slow and methodical distance might be helpful, but then does this person invariably replace you in your absence?
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Resilient wrote: Mon Sep 18, 2023 1:31 pm Friendships are either a great thing or a nuisance. That’s why circles need to remain small.

You have to find friendships that have no strings.


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My immediate circle is not even a circle. It’s just family.. that’s who I hang out with. I do have some friends who made the cut, but this bitch better count her days.

It’s actually down to the point where she’s copying my social media posts man. It’s insane
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J o o k wrote: Mon Sep 18, 2023 1:34 pm People only act, how you allow them to, so if there’s an issue it’s because you allowed it to fester.

I don’t know the situation, but if she’s infiltrated your circle, let’s look past the party.

You don’t invite her, the party is here. Any ramifications? Are other friends not coming because she has now influenced them and you are the bad person? Are other people turning against you?

How about post-party? What did you accomplish, a big fuck you. Now where do you guys stand? Is she eradicated from the family? Or does it just exacerbate the issue?

Who are the key players that have relationships with you both? Are they ready to ride for you? If not, are you willing to part with them?

If you want something more subtle, it sounds like you’re moving out and removing yourself from certain situations as needed. A slow and methodical distance might be helpful, but then does this person invariably replace you in your absence?
It was never that deep for me. I’m generally a welcoming, loving person even tho I may say some slick shit sometimes.

No one is going to miss her, she needs me and my circle.

Post party, I’ll indirectly accomplish the fact that this bitch been treating me like I ain’t shit and like I ain’t always been there for her and including her.. so I ain’t that important to you? No problem so you won’t get offended if I don’t give you the opportunity to infiltrate my circle even further. Cuz you’re so unbothered. Bye
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Word, keep us posted, interested to see how it turn out.
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Whenever I visit her or meet up with her, I always brought her a little thoughtful gift because that’s just how I role.. something small

Bruh I go to her house and she can’t even offer me a glass of water

Some people just raised different man
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cody wrote: Mon Sep 18, 2023 2:05 pm Whenever I visit her or meet up with her, I always brought her a little thoughtful gift because that’s just how I role.. something small

Bruh I go to her house and she can’t even offer me a glass of water

Some people just raised different man
She’s probably self centered as fuck
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nvm.
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J o o k wrote: Mon Sep 18, 2023 2:08 pm
cody wrote: Mon Sep 18, 2023 2:05 pm Whenever I visit her or meet up with her, I always brought her a little thoughtful gift because that’s just how I role.. something small

Bruh I go to her house and she can’t even offer me a glass of water

Some people just raised different man
She’s probably self centered as fuck
What pisses me off more is that I put her in positions to make money and gain respect
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