Reconciling parents and death

J o o k
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Reconciling parents and death

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At some point do folks cope with the fact their parents are getting old and will soon die?

OR

Is it still a shock and total horror that your parents face illness and death when they get into their 70s, 80s, and 90s?
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For me as a kid, it was never on my mind. Until my dog was old and sick and had to be put to sleep. I couldn't understand why we put them to sleep but not humans. And of course didnt want them to put her to sleep. Then my Dads dad died... soon after my moms dad died. So ive always thought about my parents.

But i wasnt aware aware until i moved far away. And i only could see them once or twice a yr. I realized holy fuck i have under 30 visits with them.

But i notice how death is taboo, nobody wants to talk about it and if we do its always serious and has a mood, and we hide it away, and always pushed it far into the future. Its weird because its so natural. Its the order of things, but we are conditioned to think of it in a way.... like someone will say theres nothing funny about death... isnt there? You ever see a dead bug on its back legs straight up in the air like the cartoons? You ever seen a skull?

"Chattering finch and water-fly Are not merrier than I; Here among the flowers I lie Laughing everlastingly No; I may not tell the best Surely, friends I might have guessed Death was but the good kings jest It was hid so carefully"

Lol anyway. I wish we were taught about dying from an early age in a way where we can talk and think about it without getting sentimental and sad, or far too serious.

Its one of the great philosohpical questions, why do we have to wait for our physical death to die?

And then theres the whole idea of attatchment and what it has to do with actual love.
"and they all get put in boxes, and they all come out the same..."


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Deep thoughts per usual, Busta bust!
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pops going through some fairly intense chemo right now tbh

I hate it, but the only thing that's on my mind is being there for him and mom
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TheWarchief wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 5:04 pm pops going through some fairly intense chemo right now tbh

I hate it, but the only thing that's on my mind is being there for him and mom
Damn bro, prayers up man.

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J o o k wrote:At some point do folks cope with the fact their parents are getting old and will soon die?

OR

Is it still a shock and total horror that your parents face illness and death when they get into their 70s, 80s, and 90s?
Still shock and horror. I hate watching it


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Zyc wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 5:34 pm
J o o k wrote:At some point do folks cope with the fact their parents are getting old and will soon die?

OR

Is it still a shock and total horror that your parents face illness and death when they get into their 70s, 80s, and 90s?
Still shock and horror. I hate watching it


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One of my parents died too young dad was old but not old enough to die he was 68 but dudes are living longer than that that’s pretty good for smoking 5 packs a day
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Diasick wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 5:56 pm One of my parents died too young dad was old but not old enough to die he was 68 but dudes are living longer than that that’s pretty good for smoking 5 packs a day
Got damn, 5 packs a day is about 100 cigs right? That’s about a cig every ten minutes you’re awake lol.
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J o o k wrote: Sun Sep 17, 2023 4:28 pm At some point do folks cope with the fact their parents are getting old and will soon die?

OR

Is it still a shock and total horror that your parents face illness and death when they get into their 70s, 80s, and 90s?
i think about it all the time. the day my momma goes is the day i turn full menace bro

that's my homie. we've been through so much in this fucked up world together.

id rather just put the fucking pillow over her face than ever watch her suffer through illness
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